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Trading in human suffering
When we set out to give someone a voice or to create a platform for them, we create a crutch for them. Just like our voice is ours to claim, so is theirs. When we slip into silence, usually from self-pity, we allow others to speak on our behalf, and then complain if they don’t…
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Are you accountable to you?
You know that feeling that you get when you see someone say or do something and you just know they’re talking nonsense? That’s because they lack authenticity. But when you get that feeling and they actually do follow through with what they say and do, and they mean it, then you lack authenticity because you…
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With whom are you competing?
Who are you really competing with in life? The only person you should be competing with is the one you were yesterday! The most common limiting belief that I encounter in others is the belief that they’re not as good as others. The way I encounter this within myself is when I question whether I’m…
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Who’s doing you in?
This is a phenomenon that I encountered regularly in the corporate world. When your performance appraisal is reviewed against your targets only, but all mitigating circumstances are dismissed, understand that they’re not interested in rating your performance, they’re interested in finding someone to blame for their lack of competence, or lack of support. If, however,…
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Dream killers
Do you find yourself waiting in the shadows, wondering when will it be safe to emerge and take that risk on something that you’ve always dreamt of achieving? Are you waiting for the perfect moment to ensure that you get it just right? Or do you find yourself mentioning it to any person that shows…
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Let the voiceless speak for themselves
I see so many people speaking on behalf of others, often starting out with good intention, but later distorting that intention by projecting their own values on the ones whom they wish to uplift. Despite our best intentions, we stifle the voices of others when we speak on their behalf. Not to be confused with…
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What are you waiting for?
When we find ourselves waiting for just the right moment, or that right feeling, or the perfect setting, or the ideal opportunity to present itself before we do something, we’re afraid of failure. If we know, with understanding and rational thought, why we are not ready for something, that’s different. When we have no real…
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Mediocrity is the enemy of life
How often do you hold back so that you don’t ruffle feathers? Maybe you hold back because you don’t want to be the odd one out? Or perhaps you withhold what you’re capable of because you don’t want anyone to think that you are arrogant, or full of yourself, or trying to steal the limelight?…
