The matter of justice doesn’t only apply to matters of criminal behaviour or social conduct, but it’s especially true for how we conduct ourselves within our family units.
It’s the injustices that we experience within our families that result in the misconduct that we express in our lives.
That injustice doesn’t always feel like a blatant abuse. Often, it’s a subtle avoidance of doing what’s right, or speaking out against family norms that are harmful to some.
When we benefit from such injustice, we find it acceptable, or at least defensible, to remain silent.
The way we benefit from it includes enjoying the inclusion or sense of belonging to the family unit.
It includes winning favour with he heads of the family, or earning our place at the table of the family business, or even securing our inheritance.
That’s when we become party to the injustice that affects even us, but from places that we assume to be detached from our family unit.
Injustice in the home is the root of injustice in this world.
First do right by your own before you go out into the world to do right by others.
This is not charity. It is justice in its truest form.
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Tag: familyvalues
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Do you practice self-serving justice?
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The value of values
One of the paths to insanity is to try to reason around someone else’s actions or behaviour by assuming that their value system is the same as yours.
This includes people who come from the same culture, tradition, ethnicity, and even family as you do.
Our value system may be informed by a common framework or point of reference.
But, unless everyone complies 100% with that framework, each interpretation or implementation of those values becomes a unique value system, as unique as each individual.
When we don’t recognise these differences, we insist on compliance rather than understanding in the way each person adopts these values in their lives.
That’s the root of misunderstanding: The assumption that because we have shared values on some key issues, we have shared values on all issues.
Thus, relationships and homes are broken because of our expectations of compliance rather than our efforts towards understanding.
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