Every decision we take has an impact on us, and on those around us.
If we only consider one side of that equation, we’ll either become victims by denying ourselves of what we need in favour of pleasing everyone else, or we’ll become oppressors by pleasing ourselves and denying the rights of everyone else.
Finding a balance between the two brings us closer to experiencing joy in our lives.
When we find that we deny ourselves of what we need, it’s because we’re waiting for someone else to convince us that we’re worth it.
When we deny others what they need from us, we’re convinced that they don’t deserve us.
Both mindsets lead to an emptiness that is hard to understand.
Fulfilment and joy in life is found in striking a healthy balance between the two.
If you’re struggling to find that balance, check out my books, or connect with me for affordable life coaching sessions.
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Tag: joy
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Don’t be the victim oppressor
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Don’t celebrate the victim
Can you tell the difference between those who want to improve versus those who want others to see how brave their struggle is?
When you wear your heart on your sleeve, it weakens you because your struggle grows to define you.
If you’re not careful, the sympathy you get from going through a struggle can easily fulfil your need for validation or recognition by others.
Before you know it, that will become key in your effort to feel significant.
That’s how our struggles weaken us, because when we stop paying attention, it grows to define how the world sees us.
We then become willing victims and see no need to grow beyond that struggle.
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In Pursuit of Joy
If you’re chasing to find joy, chances are, you’re chasing your tail. Joy is something we leave behind when we pursue something else to pacify our ego. If this resonates with you, you need a copy of the book. 🤓
It is not what we do that prevents us from experiencing happiness but what we prevent ourselves from doing that denies us joy. We’re so often fixated on what we need to start doing, that we rarely consider what we need to give up, or stop doing. Remember that joy is our natural state. Everything that prevents us from experiencing it is simply distractions or clutter that we accumulated over time. If you’re struggling to identify what that clutter is, get a copy of the book to guide you out of the space you’re in, so that you can find the peace and balance that you need to feel joy once again in your life. It’s possible. Don’t give up.
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Trappings of Entitlement
Ingratitude seeps in when you look for evidence of deliberate kindness despite there being no evidence of cruelty from others. We’re so conditioned to find goodness against the backdrop of evil, or generosity in the midst of selfishness, that we’ve grown to believe that only the evidence of deliberate kindness is an indication of care or concern from others.
Most often, it’s the restraint of anger or the withholding of harshness that is more evident of the kindness that lurks beneath, because it means that someone in an anguished state still recognises your worth enough not to dump their harshness onto you.
When we feel entitled to overt expressions of kindness, we automatically take for granted all the servitude that we receive without complaint or expectation of reciprocation. Being mindful of the small things always reveals the bigger things that we should value. Be mindful of your blessings.
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In search of home
Gratitude lays the foundation of the home.
Respect builds its walls.
Love and compassion provides the roof that protects you from the storm.
And passion gives you the windows to allow your soul to breathe.
As for faith…faith is the door that opens the path to all of it.
Virtues have limited effect or value if practiced in isolation. It sometimes has a detrimental effect when one is practiced in excess compared to the others. Balance, as always, is what leads to harmony, and harmony is the throne on which peace resides.
Find your balance. Find your peace.
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Live, Laugh, Love, and leave a Legacy
Live to love, to laugh, and to leave a legacy. Your material success will only be celebrated after your death if it is of benefit to others. Accumulation of wealth to stroke your ego not only deprives you of the joy of human connection, it also denies you the bonds of beauty that feeds your soul. Laughter should not be sourced from a business deal that outwitted your opponent. Such laughter will mock you in your later years when you realise that your fascination with wealth was merely a drop in the ocean of joy compared to what joy you could have achieved in investing the incredible talents you have to brighten up the faces of loved ones, or even strangers. Wealth is a means to an end. Don’t get so caught up in the means that you completely lose sight of your end.
