Self-indulgent self-loathing

Self-indulgence leads to self-loathing because there are too many who think that contentment lies in putting yourself first.

Putting yourself first is easy.

Look around and see how many self-indulgent people you have in your life, and then consider how it is that they may really just be trying to take care of themselves because they don’t feel cared for.

And then consider how many around them feel the exact same way because they’re invisible to the one who is self-indulgent, while finding that to be reason to be self-indulgent too.

That’s how the crazy cycle of loneliness and isolation of spirit is maintained.

The lower your self-esteem, the more you try to raise visibility for your struggle.

‘You don’t know how hard it is…’

‘If only you experienced what I experienced…’

‘Nobody understands…’

‘Nobody cares…’

‘No one gave me a start in life…’

Whether that is true is irrelevant to what you need to do.

When you need your struggle to be heard, to be seen, to be appreciated, or to be celebrated before you move on from it, you hold yourself back while looking for validation.

Only, you don’t think it’s validation. You think it’s honouring yourself.

Your struggle is for your growth so that you can contribute what you didn’t receive.

That’s how we improve the world and the quality of lives of those we care for, because that’s what feeds our soul.

The more you indulge yourself before others, the more you’ll chase fulfilment in a never ending spiral while blaming everyone for not caring, or for using you.

If you only offer material benefit, how is anyone supposed to take emotional comfort from you?

Own your life, because if you’re not owning it, you’re probably messing up someone else’s without meaning to.

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