Trading the future for the past


Sometimes, we lose ourselves in the struggle to build the future that we want, while forgetting that it’s a struggle because we’re still living in the past.

Our expectations about what opportunities lie ahead, or what we believe we’re capable of achieving, are defined by what we believe to be true about the events that got us to the present moment.

It is the betrayals, the disappointments, the failures, and the downright bad luck that we may have experienced before, that weigh us down in the present.

Unless we see it for what it was, we’ll believe that we’re striving for the future, while not realising that all we’re doing is trying to avoid a repeat of the past.

That’s how the present moment is lost.

And it’s the present moment that shapes the future, never the past.

Recognising what was out of our control, or what was a result of the demons that others were fighting, and especially recognising why it was impossible for us to have known better at that time, is what breaks the emotional choke hold of the past, so that we may be able to reclaim the present.

Even if you chose to ignore good advice, in that moment, the reasons for your emotions pulling you towards ignoring it needs to be understood if you ever hope to be more mindful about such opportunities in future.

Judging ourselves, or others, only ever has relevance at the time of trying to figure out what our contribution was towards that unpleasant outcome.

The moment we accept that contribution, judgement no longer has any place in what shapes our decisions for the future.

If you want your future to be worth looking forward to, you need to reclaim the present moment by making peace with your past, no matter how bitter or painful the impact of it may be.

If not, you trade your future for that same bitter past, while blaming others for denying you your happiness.

It always starts with you.

#hope #expectation #sincerity #selfworth #selfawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #lifecoaching #zaidismail #loveyourself #lifegoals #theegosystem #ownyourlife #lettingo

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