Much of life is wasted exhausting yourself in claiming your rights from others.
Whether you have a right to be treated a certain way or not is not going to influence the one who chooses to ignore your rights.
They believe they have good reason to deny you such rights, in the same way that you may have withheld your efforts in fulfilling your responsibilities towards others when life was beating you down.
Either way, it’s not right or wrong to focus on what rights you have over others, it’s a matter of realising at what cost you go about trying to claim your rights.
If you’re not aware of that cost to your sanity and your peace, you’ll lose yourself to that struggle and become bitter, while not noticing that the struggle with one distracted you from fulfilling the rights that another has over you.
That’s how we become part of the problem when we grow fixated on what we deserve rather than who we want to be, or what we stand for.
If you’ve exhausted all options to communicate to another why their behaviour towards you is hurtful or unkind and they persist, adjust your expectations of them or else you’ll lose yourself to the struggle of trying to convince them of your significance.
Feeling like you deserve something is entitlement, and entitlement is what feels like betrayal when it’s not fulfilled.
The only way to break that cycle is to reclaim yourself by connecting with what you’re willing to accept and not what you demand, because demands and deserving things is dependent on others agreeing with you.
When they don’t, it will break you without you knowing it, and you’ll convince yourself that you’re a martyr for a noble cause.
Is it worth it?
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Is it worth the effort?
