Telling yourself sweet little lies?

You lie to yourself most when you tell someone, “You make me feel…”

No one can make you feel anything without your permission.

You give your permission when you’re more focused on what you need from them to feel whole, rather than what you value about yourself.

The moment you hand over the custody of your emotions to another, you deny yourself the opportunity to own your life.

When you don’t own your life, you hold others responsible for the state in which you find yourself, which becomes your distraction from doing something to improve your own state.

When we demand such priority from others, we need to be absolutely certain that we’re offering them as much priority in return, but not the way that we want to prioritise them, but the way that they need it.

If we need them to create space for us the way we need, we must be willing to do the same in return.

Unfortunately, when you don’t own your life, you only focus on what you need from others, and rarely is there any focus on what others need from you.

That’s how the score-keeping starts, or the tit-for-tat, or the guilt tripping when you don’t get what you need or want.

Self-worth is literally the worth that we place on ourselves, and has nothing to do with the value that others see in us.

The more you need others to make you feel good about yourself, the more likely you are to drive them away.

The ones who are drawn to you because you need them to feel good are lacking in self-worth themselves, creating a co-dependence that suppresses your growth potential, rather than enhancing it.

That’s how ‘toxic’ relationships are formed.

When one person grows from feeling supported and the other doesn’t, it creates reason for the one who stagnated to feel as if they’re being betrayed because their needs are no longer such a priority for their partner.

And so the vicious cycle spirals out of control.

Own Your Life.

It always starts with you.

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