Keep up, if you can

Like they say, love is not two people looking at each other, it’s two people looking in the same direction.

What happens when the one is looking ahead, while the other is looking behind?

One common failing in relationships is that while one partner views growth as the amazing things that they can achieve together, the other sees it as a statement of their partner not being happy with what they have.

One focuses on protecting what they have while the other focuses on improving it.

One focuses on reaching their full potential, while the other is still waiting to feel validated for what they’ve achieved. And so it goes…

And when these differences of perspective are not understood, it’s easy to assume that the conflict of priorities is a rejection of who we are or what’s important to us.

There is no easy fix to this because at the root of it is the fact that the one who is invested in growth has a healthier self-worth than the one who is invested in staying where they are.

Self-worth is based on how much gratitude we have for who we are.

And gratitude is something that we cannot instil in another. We can point out all the reasons why someone should be grateful, but the choice to be grateful is always theirs to make.

Self-pity or self-loathing, which is simply the opposite of self-worth, is what gets in the way of healthy emotional bonds in a relationship.

Understanding and accepting your ability to influence your partner in this regard could be the difference between courting insanity and choosing peace.

Choose carefully.

Own Your Life

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