Embrace your demons

Relationships fail when the demons of both don’t play nicely with each other.

But demons are not so easy to recognise.

What feels like a right or a legitimate expectation is often underpinned by a demon from the past when those rights were denied, or those expectations dismissed.

Our innate need to be of significance to those we deem significant stir the demons within when that significance comes under threat.

It gets ever more complicated when the demon is associated with what comes next, and not what is.

Consider this.

Those who play it safe in life are protecting themselves from failure or inadequacy.

What they’re focused on may appear to be their absolute priority, and may even feel like it is their priority to them, without realising that what they’re focused on is to protect them from what it may lead to next.

That’s how success becomes a threat, or emotional availability feels like intense vulnerability.

The fear of abandonment means that we must protect ourselves from growing attached, or the fear of rejection means that we must preemptively reject before we’re rejected.

Thus, self-sabotage leads to self-fulfilling prophecies that convince our demons that we were right to protect ourselves from a threat that no one else understands.

That’s how our demons from the past ruin the promise of a beautiful future.

If you don’t own your demons, your demons own you.

It always starts with you.

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