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Do you hate apologising?

Ever reject an apology from someone only to be told, “Well, I apologised. So if you don’t accept my apology, then that’s your problem, not mine.”

Or something similar?

When you apologise and expect your apology to be accepted, you’re not apologising, you’re demanding that the other person just move on without any redress to the impact that your offence had on them.

An apology is more than just an acknowledgement of wrongdoing.

An apology, when sincere, must focus on assuring the other person of two things.

Firstly, that there is real remorse or regret about the way in which you conducted yourself.

And secondly, that you want to make up for the impact that it had on them.

If either of these are lacking, it’s not an apology. It’s simply a means to pacify your own conscience, and at best, it’s a formality.

Relationships can often be salvaged through sincere remorse for the mistakes that we make.

But, if we feel weak for admitting fault, then we have work to do on how we feel about ourselves, and it has nothing to do with how the other person may or may not respond to our apology.

If you find it difficult to apologise, chances are good that you’re also keeping score about who committed how many offences compared to the other.

Either way, it means that you live with the fear of being inadequate.

It always starts with you…and what you think of yourself.

Own Your Life.

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Zaid Ismail

Author, life coach, and mental health activist. We need to change the narrative from disorders, illnesses, and survival to accountability, understanding, and thriving.

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