Deluded confidence

We treat others the way that we treat ourselves.

If you struggle to understand what drives the emotional currents that you experience within yourself, look at the feedback that you’re receiving from those who stand to gain nothing from your downfall.

Remember: The most important feedback is non-verbal.

When we hold ourselves accountable for what we do or don’t do, we will hold other’s accountable for the commitments or claims that they make.

When we give ourselves an easy pass, we’ll allow others to be flaky about their commitments towards us.

We give what we have and we accept what we want must be tolerated about us.

So when we are filled with self-loathing while pretending to be at peace with and claim to be grateful for who we are, we will be harsh or unforgiving towards those who question our behaviour while being exceedingly gentle and generous with those who affirm our delusions.

This is not about who is right or wrong, good or bad, noble or despicable.

This is simply the way life works.

You cannot give what you don’t have.

Expecting it to be different will result in contention and stress within yourself as you struggle to find answers to what should not be problems, and it will strain relationships that matter because you will be that much more difficult to be understood.

That lack of understanding from others, when observed through your delusions about who you are, will seem like rejection or confrontation because when we are unwilling to hold ourselves accountable for the state in which we find ourselves, we will feel attacked by anyone else holding us accountable for our contribution towards any problems in our relationship with them.

The reasons for holding onto delusions, especially while knowing that those delusions conflict with reality, is a topic for another day.

But first, we must be willing to test our assumptions about life and about others to ensure that we’re not deluded to begin with.

It always starts with you.

#hope #expectation #sincerity #selfworth #selfawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #lifecoaching #zaidismail #theegosystem #ownyourlife