My reflections in my search for sanity
| My writing is not a true reflection of who I am. It only reflects some light on the darkness that lurks within me. It reflects my struggles for purpose and understanding. It reflects hints of my passion. It reflects suggestions of who I am and who I yearn to be, but it is not entirely me. |
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Resisting the norms
The relentless pace of society towards retiring those who are no longer contemporary is enough reason to settle into the rhythm of preparing for old age. Just writing that out makes me nauseous. To regain my sanity, or at least to push back against the approaching insanity, I remind myself that I have a good…
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Does your therapist stroke your ego?
You know that old adage about ‘practice what you preach’? At some point someone replaced it with ‘those who can’t do, coach’. And the world has been worse off since then. Yes, I know I identify as a coach, but it would be opportunistic of me to ignore the large number of charlatans using the…
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Forgiveness without understanding is virtue signalling
If there is one piece of advice that will help you through the worst of times, this is it. Internalise this, connect with it, make it your mantra if you must, but understand that forgiveness on its own, without acceptance, will leave you yearning for retribution or justice. More than this, acceptance is only wishful…
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Have you ever truly lived?
Is your definition of success really your definition of success? Or did you perhaps borrow it from society without really noticing? Our fixation on appearing successful is so toxic, that we readily give up our hopes and dreams in favour of acceptance. Most people don’t have a greater purpose in life beyond achieving what secures…
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Don’t serve to be seen
Don’t only serve others when there’s something in it for you. That’s not goodwill or charity, it’s a path to hypocrisy. Uplifting others should be done because you want to ease their journey through life. Theirs, not yours. Not because you want them to worship you, or celebrate your praises. To contribute, support, and enrich…
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Elusive peace
What brings you peace? If it’s likes, shares, and comments, then I’m afraid that peace escapes you too. Reconnecting with the human condition seems to get more difficult by the day with the filters of online life shaping our perceptions and opinions of the struggles or triumphs of others. Does an authentic human experience still…
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Be blessed, not entitled
Appreciation is simply an acknowledgement of what we feel blessed with, while gratitude is reflected in what we claim to appreciate. The secret to contentment is found in gratitude. But not in an attitude of gratitude. It must be more substantial than that. Gratitude must be a meaningful connection with what we truly value about…
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Expect to expect more
There’s a fallacy out there that it’s possible to live without expectation. Yeah, it’s a fallacy, cos it’s impossible. When you try to live without expectation, you’re defending yourself against being hurt. When you defend yourself preemptively, it means that you believe that you’re weak enough not to be able to deal with disappointment. More…
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The right to demand your rights…
The more we emphasise our rights, the less time we spend understanding our responsibilities. The rights that others have over us is the responsibilities that we have towards them, and vice versa. The moment we focus on only one side of that equation, we become oppressors. If we focus on our rights but neglect our…
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Telling yourself sweet little lies?
You lie to yourself most when you tell someone, “You make me feel…” No one can make you feel anything without your permission. You give your permission when you’re more focused on what you need from them to feel whole, rather than what you value about yourself. The moment you hand over the custody of…
