We lose ourselves to the bitterness of this world when we allow the self-loathing of others to define our self-worth.
In our desire to be understood, we willingly adopt labels that limit our expression of who we truly are.
It is a betrayal of the contract of kindness that we have with our soul.
The contract that compels us to treat with gentleness that which we cherish, and to handle with care those who cherish us.
When we allow the self-loathing that drives the bad behaviour of others to define how we feel about ourselves, we replace our gentleness with their harshness, and our care with their contempt.
The labels we use to convince ourselves that this bitter trade is warranted include convincing ourselves that we’re alone, that were powerless victims, or that we’re worthless unless our betrayer tastes the cruelty with which they treated us.
We hope to find significance in karma, believing that if we’re not avenged, then our experience was of no consequence.
To be of consequence, even to the most despicable, fills that void of self-worth that we created when we betrayed the contract of kindness with our soul.
Exhale. Release the toxins of a toxic past, so that you may fill your chest with the blessings that await.
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A bitter trade
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Be gentle…to you
When you treat the vulnerable or the gentle ones with contempt, you create the same monsters that made you.
The moment that we realise what we assume to be our nature is in fact a product of our upbringing, we’ll be able to make conscious decisions about who we want to be.
Sometimes, we place so much emphasis on respecting our emotions that we prevent ourselves from seeking answers as to our emotional response.
Humanness is not found in being infinitely understanding, but in balancing that understanding with decisive and purposeful action.
Striking that balance becomes more difficult when raised on a diet of self-doubt and fear.
That self-doubt and fear drives us towards paying forward what we may have received at the hands of similarly struggling souls.
Mindfulness about this state is the only chance of breaking that cycle of harshness or pain.
Be kind to yourself. Begin by seeking to understand what shaped you into who you are, so that you may be able to choose consciously who you want to be.
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Dare to dream
When we pursue the impossible, we achieve the unbelievable.
But, we’re often so distracted by how impossible our goal might appear, that we lose sight of everything that its pursuit offers us.
Fortune cookie wisdom tells us that it’s the journey that matters, not the destination.
Yet, we lose sight of the growth that the journey offers, and give up the pursuit of a seemingly impossible destination.
Today is a good day to take that step towards that impossible dream that you’ve been courting with for so long.
No time like the present, right?
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Gratitude before regret
It’s impossible to be grateful for a blessing that you don’t acknowledge.
Like believing that we’re entitled to certain outcomes because of our effort or contribution.
Or believing that we’re entitled to be treated a certain way because we believe we’re a good person.
Whether those entitlements are true is not the issue.
The issue is that we are less likely to treat with due care and appreciation those things that we believe we are entitled to have in our lives.
Anything that is neglected in care or attention withers and eventually dies.
That’s how relationships deteriorate, and how our quality of life diminishes when we’re not paying attention.
Our absence of gratitude is therefore most often acknowledged only after the regret of the loss sets in.
Be mindful of what you have before you no longer have it.
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Gratitude is not the first step
Gratitude is all that matters, because gratitude is not possible without everything that matters coming before it.
Gratitude escapes us when we don’t respect the effort needed to achieve anything worth achieving.
It escapes us when we assume that we’re entitled to an outcome, without considering our contribution that is needed towards that outcome.
It escapes us when we take for granted what we have, because we’re always focused on what we don’t have.
To appreciate the effort, the struggle, or the commitment needed to create anything of value, we need to first recognise the sacrifice, the hard work, the consistency, and the commitment needed to develop the skills to gather the resources needed to achieve it.
For this reason, we all have something that we give to others for which they should be grateful, but sadly, we cannot insert gratitude into their hearts for it.
We can only contribute the best of who we are, and appreciate why we may not always be appreciated.
We cannot give what we don’t have. The ungrateful one lacks gratitude for who they are and what they have.
Expecting gratitude from such a being is therefore foolhardy, no matter how significant they may be in your life.
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Invest purposefully in your life
Invest in creating the life that you want, rather than escaping the life that you don’t want.
It might sound obvious, but take a breather and consider what drives your choices.
Are you driven by the need to avoid unpleasant encounters in your life?
Or are you driven by the need to create encounters that connect with your soul?
The difference has a profound effect on your sense of peace and well being.
Things only thrive if we nurture it. Nurturing is not always an act of kindness.
Sometimes, nurturing is feeding a toxic cycle without realising it, or validating untoward behaviour by actively engaging with it.
Emotional mindfulness connects you with the present moment so that you may make more informed investments about the outcomes of your life.
*Connect with me to find out how I can help you to achieve this. Video sessions available at very reasonable rates.
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The understanding seeker
Seek to understand, so that you may be able to accept the events of your life with peace, rather than feeling compelled to let go with bitterness.
It’s the inclination to want to be heard that denies us peace when we’re not heard.
Or to want to be acknowledged when we are dismissed.
Rather than fight to be heard, or to be acknowledged, choose your battles.
Be sure that what you’re fighting for is what you want to have in your life, and not just because you refuse to go quietly.
When you find it impossible to get through, to make your point, or to establish reason, it’s a sign that you need to pause and understand better what it is that you’re dealing with.
When you pause to understand, you’ll allow yourself a chance to decide if the fight is worth it, and if it is, you’ll create space for yourself to recognise a better way to achieve your objective.
Like the prophetic advice teaches us, don’t get angry. The moment you find your anger rising, it’s a sign that you need to step back, and seek to understand better, before continuing to respond.
Peace.
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Your perspective is your choice
Perspective is a choice, not an inheritance.
Improve your awareness of why you believe what you believe, and it will be possible to consciously choose what resonates with your personal value system, and discarding what doesn’t.
When we lose sight of why we hold the perspectives that we do, and those perspectives create a conflict within us, we feel an increase in stress and anger without always understanding why.
At those times, it’s easy to explain our emotional state by connecting it with our perspectives that are being challenged.
However, responding from a position of anger or defence because of a perceived attack on what we believe to be true is a defence mechanism.
We would have no reason to defend that which we believe is based on an objective truth.
The only way to achieve such a level of confidence in our perspectives and beliefs is by improving our self awareness, and thereby improving our ability to critically assess what we stand for, and why.
This will go a long way towards finding balance in life, and knowing which battles are worth fighting, and which are not.
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