Tag: society

  • Sexual Orientation

    Or should that be ‘sectual orientation’? Someone used this term when asking me about my religious persuasion, but I think it applies in this case as well. After researching this topic for some time, and having been exposed to many people that identify as ‘Gay’, my original views remain consistent. Homosexuality is a choice, and not determined by genes. This is supported by extensive research and very well presented in a concise argument on this blog. Furthermore, as I’ve always stated, if it is natural, the simple acid test to prove this would be procreation. But that’s a debate for another day.

    Given the tedious debates about this subject, I felt inclined to put my penny in the plate as well (no doubt to add to the tediousness of it all). Before I share more of my personal views, here’s a few quotes from the site referenced above:

    American Psychological Association

    “[M]any scientists share the view that sexual orientation is shaped for most people at an early age through complex interactions of biological, psychological and social factors.”

    The American Psychological Association’s pamphlet, “Answers to Your Questions About Sexual Orientation and Homosexuality.”

    “Gay Brain” Researcher Simon LeVay

    “At this point, the most widely held opinion [on causation of homosexuality] is that multiple factors play a role.”

    LeVay, Simon (1996). Queer Science, MIT Press.

    Dennis McFadden, University of Texas neuroscientist

    “Any human behavior is going to be the result of complex intermingling of genetics and environment. It would be astonishing if it were not true for homosexuality.”

    “Scientists Challenge Notion that Homosexuality’s a Matter of Choice,” The Charlotte Observer, August 9, 1998.

    Sociologist Steven Goldberg

    “I know of no one in the field who argues that homosexuality can be explained without reference to environmental factors.”

    Goldberg, Steven (1994). When Wish Replaces Thought: Why So Much of What You Believe is False. Buffalo, New York: Prometheus Books.

    The following is a comment from Dean Hamer, whose research in 1993 started the whole thing about the gay gene

    “Gay gene” researcher Dean Hamer was asked by Scientific American if homosexuality was rooted solely in biology. He replied:

    “Absolutely not. From twin studies, we already know that half or more of the variability in sexual orientation is not inherited. Our studies try to pinpoint the genetic factors…not negate the psychosocial factors.”

    “New Evidence of a ‘Gay Gene’,” by Anastasia Toufexis, Time, November 13, 1995, vol. 146, Issue 20, p. 95.

    This is only the tip of the iceberg. It’s obvious that social factors play a massive role in determining the sexual orientation of individuals. I often liken it with natural inclinations that people may have regarding acts or behaviours that are not associated with sexuality. The more acceptable an act becomes to society, the greater the prevalence of such an act.

    Therefore, the level of tolerance of an act is often the determining factor in its prevalence. Taking such analogies to the extreme is usually a good way to demonstrate a point, so here goes. At some point in our lives, every one of us has/had the urge to beat the crap out of someone, and maybe even want to kill them. This urge to act out violently exists in everyone. Whether a saint or a sinner, the urge is there. What prevents us from acting out is either one or all of the following factors. We either restrain ourselves because of the moral code that we subscribe to, our sense of fear for the punishment that may be received from a religious perspective, or the repercussions from a society that will not tolerate such behaviour.

    Should violent aggression become more acceptable, more people would act out on these urges to beat someone up, and society will become more accepting of the escalated level of violence. The same argument I’ve always maintained about mental ‘disorders’ versus chemical balance is what I maintain about homosexuality. i.e. the chemical imbalance that supposedly proves a person’s predisposed state to the condition is in fact a symptom of the thought processes and not the other way around.

    To avoid labouring the point and possibly delving into territory that I’m barely qualified to read let alone comment on, I would summarise it as follows. We all have urges to act out in ways that contradict societal norms, or even natural orders. Whether this is a result of a natural inclination to want to rebel against rigid structures that often stifle individuality or creativity, or whether it’s a result of other more complex factors, research to date proves that genetic predisposition is almost negligible in the vast majority of cases. We need to accept that people are not born gay, the same way that people are not born depressed. Environmental factors in our upbringing is what determines the dominance of these behavioural tendencies and not some mysterious gene that we have no power to act against.

    The power of the mind is often conveniently under estimated if acknowledging it rids us of our argument to justify our condition. I won’t suggest to know the answer to how society should deal with homosexuality. However, I think it’s disingenuous for people that choose to be gay to blame some hidden unproven force for their choice of sexual orientation, when in fact it really is a lifestyle decision that they’ve made. If every person succumbed to the fear and insecurity associated with interacting with the opposite sex, the human race would have been extinct many centuries ago.

  • I’m losing myself

    Acceptance. I’m pretty much screwed without it. No amount of affirmation, gratitude or inclusion will ever fill the gaping hole left by not being accepted for who I really am. Needing to pander to the dictates of others, or suppress my true nature from fear of ridicule leaves me wanting for life. I could easily be Charlie Chaplin or Jim Carrie if I felt confident enough to show my silly side. It’s often this silly side that makes me feel most human.

    I have an underlying need on occasion to abandon decorum amongst those that I trust will not use that moment of surrender as a yardstick against which to measure me. Moments like that would make me feel so much more wholesome. But I do not see any that I can trust in this way any longer.

    It’s not possible to live a life of perpetual pompous parades of good etiquette or restrained manners every moment of my life. Such unnatural behaviour has turned me into the jaded bitter old man that I am. Realising the need for social order on one hand, but also knowing that if unrestrained I will probably be shunned. I am not as contradictory or hypocritical as I may sound right now. This surrender I desire is not a surrender of principles or ethics, nor morals or discipline. It’s simply a surrender of control and restraint in being able to express myself in the most natural and colourful way I am capable of. With dignity of course. Always with dignity.

    I used to reduce many to stuttering, blubbering, gyrating, tearing, helpless bundles of laughter because of my antics and my humour, but I have no inclination nor motivation to express that side of me any more. I have no inclination for a life fully lived. The romantic notions I write about are lost concepts to my present being. Distant memories of a youth never lived. I am faced with a reality that spits in the face of my aspirations, and just saying that literally conjures up images in my head of venomous interactions of previous lives.

    I am a recluse under construction. I do not fit in, nor do I aspire to any more. I despise the erosion of sincerity that I witness around me, and I refuse to play any part in it. I am not socially anxious, nor inept. Nor do I have a mental illness or disorder that predisposes me to this behaviour. My only shortcoming is that I expect more than people are willing to expose of themselves. Our embellished facades shall be protected to our very last breath. And I will protrude like a hernia against the six pack of a society that is obsessed with image but lacks substance.

  • I am not a liberal

    I am not a liberal. I think liberals are people who have a desperate need to be liked by everyone, that’s why they’ll never have the back bone to stand up for anything that would offend the opinions of others, except those that are already marginalised. The popular opinion is all that matters to liberals. 

    One can argue that they have conviction in their beliefs, but that doesn’t excuse their naivety in life. Extremism results from excessive liberalism. Moderation is not practised by liberals, because they tend to be liberal in the extreme, which makes it ironic that they would be able to point a finger at anyone that chooses to oppose their views and establish boundaries. Liberalism will only ever work if we lived in isolation and had no influence on anyone else. Then, by all means, do as you please.

    Liberals are so focused on individual rights that they lose sight of the rights of society. The more ‘free’ we become, the more social ills manifest in our liberated communities. Countries with the greatest social ‘freedoms’ also have pervasive mental ‘disorders’ and high suicide rates. But of course, according to the liberal, it’s your life, so you can do with it as you please, including throwing yourself off a building or taking an overdose, because the rights and responsibilities you have to those around you doesn’t count for anything, because your rights over your self come first.

    It’s again ironical to note that it’s this same self-centred philosophy that creates fertile ground for the mental ‘disorders’ that are ravaging our ‘first world’ societies because in every single case that I have been exposed to, such mental ‘disorders’ always have a very strong, if not predominant theme of betrayal by others. That betrayal takes the form of many things from infidelity in relationships (the most common cause) to a lack of acceptance in society (bullying, etc.). But it’s more convenient to suggest that a chemical imbalance makes us feel like we’re tainted or damaged or not good enough, rather than to acknowledge that we have a moral deficit in our progressive communities. 

    Progressive? I think not. 

    When will the liberals figure this out?

  • To be insecure about virtues or attributes of the self, we have to maintain some notion, no matter how remote, that we possess some of it to begin with. I don’t have such insecurities any longer. Acceptance has allowed me to know with certainty what insignificance I’ve achieved in my life and I therefore have no inclination to seek such acceptance from others any more.

    Cynically Jaded

  • What is wrong with society?

    Society’s definition of “beautiful” is having a flat stomach, big boobs, big butt, long hair, and tan sexy skin. Because of this, teenagers don’t think they’re good enough anymore. They don’t think they’re being accepted. 10 year old girls think they’re fat. 11 year olds cut. 12 year olds stop eating. 13 year olds wake up in the morning and stare at themselves in the mirror; pointing out every little imperfection. Society is also teaching girls at a young age to wear mini skirts, short shorts, and belly shirts- which is now leading to sexual activity. 10 year olds being pressured into having a boyfriend. 11 year olds making out. 12 year olds giving head. 13 year olds aren’t virgins, and leading them to becoming an emotional wreck. Society is killing the teenager. Reblog this if you agree. Reblog this, if you’re willing to take the stand to do whatever it takes to change this.

  • Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.

    Plato (via misanthropyaddict)