Zaid Ismail
@zaidie@zaidismail.com
Author, life coach, and mental health activist. We need to change the narrative from disorders, illnesses, and survival to accountability, understanding, and thriving.
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Don’t lose yourself to the chase
No one sets out to chase money or the high life. But many convince themselves that such a lifestyle will earn them the happiness and fulfilment that they desire. Sadly, we easily become distracted by the lifestyle and lose sight of the fulfilment that we seek. What we need emotionally, and how we need to…
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Know why, or else…
I often have to remind myself that it is not the disregard that others show for what I do that matters, it is my need for them to show regard for what I do that distracts me when they are uninterested or condescending. Similarly, it’s not the disrespect, or the lack of affection that gets…
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Reclaim you
There is a belief that a hug fixes everything. It doesn’t. There are times when a hug loses its comfort or its safety because it comes from the very source that keeps causing that pain. Words spoken in anger always cut deeper than any hug can reach. In such cases, a hug is like an…
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Silent trauma, or peace?
I’ve often seen claims that receiving the silent treatment from someone is the equivalent of emotional abuse – if not abusive itself – and I wondered how it is that doing nothing to someone can be considered abusive? I once read that what disturbs us is not the disturbance around us, but rather our inability…
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Generational what?
The true destruction caused by our insecurities is that it destroys the good that we’re supposed to be creating in the lives of those around us. Insecurity isn’t always displayed through anger or defensiveness. Most often, to hide our insecurity, we over-compensate in spaces where we feel competent, so that we can avoid or distract…
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Failed expectations
The greatest hurts are not from blatant lies. The deepest cuts are from those we hold dear when they deliberately ignore what they know is important to us. Or worse, when they deliberately do what they know offends us. When we make known our expectations or needs from a significant other, we reveal to them…
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The truth about compromise
That old adage about marriage being about compromise explains why so many marriages appear so burdensome to the ones involved. Before you start listing all the sacrifices that you make towards making your marriage work, consider that a willing compromise or sacrifice is a contribution towards something greater than who we are. The only time…
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Do you practice self-serving justice?
The matter of justice doesn’t only apply to matters of criminal behaviour or social conduct, but it’s especially true for how we conduct ourselves within our family units. It’s the injustices that we experience within our families that result in the misconduct that we express in our lives. That injustice doesn’t always feel like a…