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  • Why?

    It stumps me every single time…seeing a message of frustration and anger, or disillusionment and abandonment or self-doubt being posted by someone that truly has a natural beauty about them, yet they feel ugly, or unloved, or unworthy…WHY?

    Is the blatant and shallow competition of appearance so distracting that it makes it so easy to forget what beauty resides within? For me, a beautiful woman with a beautiful soul/character is the total package. Having someone that has the looks but is self-centred and self-obsessed very quickly erodes any respect I may have had for them. 

    Having someone that is tardy in appearance and unkempt, or just lacks any inclination to be well groomed and presentable, but with a beautiful soul is also a turn off. Confidence is definitely the most beautiful thing a woman can wear, but that confidence is not just in appearance.

    A woman that is stunningly beautiful on the outside, but is slutty by nature, lacks that spiritual glow that completes her beauty which makes her just another commodity. Yet a woman that is of average appearance but has that spiritual glow that results from confidence, dignity and self-respect (to name a few) will easily attract the attention of the most discerning of potential partners. I know that definitely is a major turn on for me. 

    Insecurity breeds desperation. And desperate people can be bought. Men and women alike. What you pay for the transaction is all that distinguishes their market value, or market niche…but nonetheless, they remain a commodity.

  • Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain. And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy. And you would accept the seasons of your heart, even as you have always accepted the seasons that pass over your fields. And you would watch with serenity through the winters of your grief. Much of your pain is self-chosen. It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self. Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquility. For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen. And the cup he brings, though it burn your lips, has been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has moistened with His own sacred tears.

    الصراحة راحة Sara7a Ra7a: ON PAIN. (GIBRAN KHALIL GIBRAN).

     

  • Some stray thoughts

    I’ve often read about incidents where strangers approached a gathering looking for the leader of the Muslims, including the Prophet (SAW) and some of the Caliphs after him, and often they would not be able to determine who he was because he would appear as ordinary as the rest of them.

    Today I wondered about the context of this and how it may apply to what I’m doing in my life. The dress code and appearance of these blessed leaders was similar to the common people around them, not different. They didn’t appear to be more pious, or more religious, or more anything; they must have appeared to be as common as the rest. So I considered this in line with the obvious difference in appearance between the present day scholars, especially those living in western societies with no ties to the Arabian culture, and the common people of those same areas. 

    While I can accept that there is sincerity among many that choose to dress according to what is interpreted to be the Sunnah, I once again wonder how much of the principles of this simple Sunnah have been forgotten or overlooked, and how much of the practice is just a custom. For me, the Sunnah is about establishing your appearance based on modesty, not extravagance. Which leads me to question whether a man dressed in a casual jeans, with a casual top that covers his body appropriately to perform Salaah is in fact more modest than a man dressed in a cloak designed in the style of the Sunnah, made of the finest non-crease fabric, and with a recognised label from a prominent designer house with just the right combination of expensive pens sticking out from his top pocket, and an equally elegant watch to match. 

    I don’t know…that’s a pretty long winded way of trying to make sense of this. But the lingering thought in my head is still whether or not attention to detail in appearance taints our intentions or not? I think it does. And some may accuse me of extremism or impracticality in my views on this, but given the stigma that is attached to appearance being a measure or at least an indicator of piety, dressing according to the Sunnah, knowing about this stigma, surely must introduce a significant distraction about conformity of appearance with those social circles we aspire to be a part of, rather than establishment of modesty? Incidentally, one of the common traits in appearance of these pious predecessors was that it was often possible to count the number of patches on their clothes. I can barely recall the last time I saw a scholar walking in clothes that had any signs of excessive wear on it, let alone patches. 

  • A slave begins by demanding justice and ends by wanting to wear a crown

    Albert Camus (via @vieiraronald)

  • Does Tumblr bring out the coward in you?

    In real life, would you consider saying the things you say on Tumblr to people’s faces? Or do we assume that it’s ok to hide behind the excuse that this is just an outlet, or vent-let, or whatever? Is it really therapeutic or does it affirm a negative sentiment that would otherwise just be a fleeting thought with no substance or consequence? Have you started thinking in a Tumblr context? Do you go through your day playing back how you would present a specific incident on Tumblr for the best responses, and imagine how many ‘likes’ or ‘reblogs’ it might get? 

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