Selflessly selfish

We’re only as selfless as our need to serve. But our need to serve is the greatest form of selfishness that we can offer the world. We’ve heard it all before. There is nothing so selfless that it is not selfish. We serve our ego when we serve others. Or perhaps the one that connects…

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Need help to de-stress?

We all need different things at different times in life. It’s part of the growth cycle. From beginning to realise what we’re really dealing with, to finding ways to cope with it, to choosing to rise above it, and finally, to no longer be defined by what was once weighing us down. These are important…

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Don’t celebrate the victim

Can you tell the difference between those who want to improve versus those who want others to see how brave their struggle is? When you wear your heart on your sleeve, it weakens you because your struggle grows to define you. If you’re not careful, the sympathy you get from going through a struggle can…

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Choose your advisors carefully

Be careful about advice that makes you feel good but doesn’t resolve anything. Things that make us feel good either provides us with an emotional high and feeds our ego, or with a spiritual high and feeds our soul. When we strike a healthy balance between the two, we find peace. So, be careful of…

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When fear serves you poorly

People willingly buy into uninformed theories, or even hearsay, because it validates their fears. We need our fears to be validated when we’re afraid of appearing incompetent, or feeling insignificant. This is the beginning of the slide towards losing yourself to the opinions of the collective as you focus on belonging more than you focus…

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