Author: Zaid Ismail

  • To me… From me…

    To me… From me…

    This may seem vain, but I’ve been wanting to do this in my copy of my first book since I first published it. And today, sitting and reading through it to remind myself of some of that advice that I give others but don’t use, it felt like the right time to finally acknowledge me. […]

  • Are you sure you have an attitude of gratitude?

    Are you sure you have an attitude of gratitude?

    With all the ‘attitude of gratitude’ narratives, I thought it might be helpful to identify when we’re not being as grateful as we think we are. Gratitude for the self is reflected in how you value who you are without a need to diminish the value of others. Sometimes, we convince ourselves that we need […]

  • Choose your battles carefully

    Choose your battles carefully

    There’s that old saying that reminds us that if we stop to respond to every barking dog, we’ll never get to the end of the street.. The lack of interest, lack of respect, or lack of appreciation that you receive in response to your efforts towards what should be joint goals is good reason to […]

  • How much are you worth?

    How much are you worth?

    When your behaviour is driven by how others treat you, the good times become dull, and the bad times become dreary. It might seem endearing to focus on how others treat you so that you can return the favour if they’re being sweet or kind, but that means that you are not being true to […]

  • Life is nothing without gratitude

    Life is nothing without gratitude

    Gratitude is only possible if you’re present in the moment you’re in. Fear distracts us from the present moment by reminding us of the past and tainting our experience of the present. It’s when we look for evidence in the present moment of the causes of pain from our past, that we find reason to […]

  • Ungratefully appreciative

    Ungratefully appreciative

    Words that carry good intention but lack conviction, often causes more harm than good. Like expressing appreciation for the blessings that we have, but treating those blessings with disregard because we lack true gratitude for it. The expression of appreciation towards something is the equivalent of a good intention, and nothing more. Gratitude runs much […]

  • Avoiding life is waiting for death

    Avoiding life is waiting for death

    Sometimes, avoiding drama seems like the only possibility of experiencing peace. But, that’s like saying that as long as we’re not sad, we must be happy. We know that’s not true. The absence of unpleasant events in our life may give us reason to be grateful for not having them, but it doesn’t mean that […]

  • Celebrate the victim, destroy the human

    Celebrate the victim, destroy the human

    What we take from a traumatic event is infinitely more important than the event itself. It’s how we feel about what we experienced that weighs down on us more than the experience itself. The more it shakes our confidence, the greater our need for reassurance and support. While it’s entirely understandable to be overwhelmed in […]