Don’t dance with the devil

The devil lives in our doubts, and our demons thrive in our fears.What we take from life leaves us filled with hope, or ridden with fear.But because it's what we take from it that matters, we can always revisit a memory or an experience and find something more wholesome to take from it. While we [...]

Master patience

Remembering to hold on to hope, and to abandon my expectations of others has always been my saving grace for my sanity and my dignity.Expectations, whether legitimate or not, are rooted in a sense of entitlement to receive what we need from others.Expectations are key to a healthy relationship, because when we can trust another [...]

A brain dump

Some find solace as the years progress. Some find love. Some find an emptiness where space was once held in hope for a significant other. My contemplations of which applies to me hold no sway any longer. Writing this post creates a delusion of its own. Although it could be interpreted as gratitude or reflection [...]

Destroying the one we love

When we look at ourselves with harshness or pity, we find reason to protect ourselves and others from what we see.We convince ourselves that we are a burden or a curse to those who deserve better than what we have to offer.Or, we convince ourselves that we won't be able to bear them leaving, so [...]

Claim your humanness

My daughter looked quite distressed when she asked me this question over the weekend."What drives people to be so cruel to animals, like skinning them alive, or abusing them for profits?"The first thought that came to mind was this. We only lose our humanity when we feel less than human.The truth is, we only lose [...]

Pause…

Sometimes, when the cacophony of crap crowds your head, you need to remember to pause for long enough to give it a chance to find the door.I often have to remind myself about what I need to stop doing, rather than what I need to actively resolve.Some things increase in intensity and complexity the more [...]