Know why, or else…

I often have to remind myself that it is not the disregard that others show for what I do that matters, it is my need for them to show regard for what I do that distracts me when they are uninterested or condescending.Similarly, it's not the disrespect, or the lack of affection that gets us…

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Reclaim you

There is a belief that a hug fixes everything.It doesn't.There are times when a hug loses its comfort or its safety because it comes from the very source that keeps causing that pain.Words spoken in anger always cut deeper than any hug can reach.In such cases, a hug is like an apology.It is a plea…

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Silent trauma, or peace?

I've often seen claims that receiving the silent treatment from someone is the equivalent of emotional abuse - if not abusive itself - and I wondered how it is that doing nothing to someone can be considered abusive?I once read that what disturbs us is not the disturbance around us, but rather our inability to…

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