The courage to parent properly

The courage that is needed, is the courage to seek sincere, informed advisors to help us to understand why we may be struggling to connect with our children.

We don’t know what we don’t know.

If we try to figure life out by ourselves, we’ll only ever learn the hard way, from our own mistakes.

While some may think that to be a fun or rewarding approach, we need to stop to consider how those mistakes negatively affect those around us.

Making mistakes is inevitable, but making avoidable mistakes is irresponsible.

Insecurity as a parent shows up when we see every act of non-compliance as an act of blatant defiance.

When we’re insecure about who we are, that becomes the lens through which we interpret the motives behind the actions of those around us.

But we don’t see that lens, because we’re distracted by needing to establish our authority or our significance, because we think that’s how we need to instil respect and good manners by not letting ‘them’ take advantage of us.

The moment this is your mindset, understand that you’re insecure about your position or your role, and your reaction to that will cause more harm than good, despite your best intentions.

Give yourself a break, and give your children a chance.

Learn from the mistakes that raised you to be insecure, by reflecting on why those who raised you couldn’t have known better.

And do your part to reduce the reasons your children will have to reflect on such matters that negatively affect their sense of self.

[this is an incomplete thought process, but worth sharing]

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