Do you remember you?

Sometimes, we lose ourselves to the hopelessness of others.

Sometimes, we lose ourselves to the failed expectations of life.

And sometimes, we lose ourselves because we thought it was our failings that earned us pain, while oblivious to the fact that it was in fact our success that threatened the ones we loved.

In these, and so many other scenarios, our perspective is tainted by our belief that what we wish to achieve with others, is what is important to them to achieve with us.

When this belief proves to be false, we question our self-worth when our best efforts only cause upheaval, and our best intentions are always misconstrued as arrogance or materialism.

If we don’t stop to see the demons that our significant others are battling, we’ll judge ourselves by how they fail to overcome their demons.

That’s when our demons strengthen their hold on us.

Unless we reconnect with who we are, we’ll forever wait for someone else to do right by us before we allow ourselves to find joy in who we are.

Rediscover who you really are, so that you can shake off the debris that you accumulated through the years with each toxic character that convinced you that you were someone you’re not.

The risk of coping with failure or betrayal is that our act of coping grows to define who we think we are.

But that’s when we lose sight of who we were before that moment.

The only way to move beyond it is to recognise that coping is only needed as long as we’re still holding on to the hurt or the disappointment of what could’ve been, but didn’t happen.

Let go of it, and the joy that you experienced before that defining moment will return.

It always starts with you.

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