Good vs bad manipulation

Sometimes we choose to maintain the peace by giving of ourselves despite not wanting to.

Sometimes, we don’t want to deal with the upheaval that follows not doing what someone wants, so we do it anyway.

Sometimes, we’re afraid of the repercussions of not complying, so we comply despite not believing in what we’re doing.

Each time we compromise who we are or what we stand for to achieve an amicable or peaceful outcome, we lose ourselves to those outcomes.

It may seem to offer short term gains, but in the long term, it destroys our sense of self.

We all find ourselves in situations where such manipulation is required at some point because the timing is just not right to deal with what needs to be addressed.

The key is to be aware of why we’re choosing this approach, versus believing that it’s the only approach that will get us what we need, or want.

And the same is true for others who appear to be manipulative by nature.

It’s simply the fear of negative outcomes that has convinced them that who they are will never be good enough, so manipulation is the only way to maintain significance or to fulfil their emotional needs.

We’re all built with the exact same emotional needs.

We just lose our way for different reasons.

Self-awareness leads to understanding, and understanding is the cornerstone of compassion.

Therefore, we must always seek to understand our own conduct under similar circumstances, before we seek to judge others.

It always starts with…you.

#hope #expectation #sincerity #selfworth #selfawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #lifecoaching #zaidismail #compassion #mentalhealthrecovery

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