Do you remember you?

In the face of rejection, it becomes easier to claim who we are.

But not always.

Sometimes we claim a version of ourselves as a protest against those who judge us harshly.

If we don’t realise that we’re doing it, we’ll convince ourselves that we need to be that way to save face or to maintain our credibility, or to get them to pay attention.

But in the process, we grow further apart from who we really are because we wanted to test our significance with a significant other that treated us like we were insignificant.

Eventually, we lose sight of the path to reclaim who we are, at which point we look to blame those who treated us badly for causing us to be bitter about life.

All this can be avoided if we stop to consider the real reasons as to why others treat us badly, rather than assuming that they do so because we’re just not good enough.

Most often, it’s because they feel like they’re not good enough.

The same way that they project their insecurities on us, we do the same in return, all in the name of trying to confirm our significance by avoiding the appearance of weakness.

The moment we blame others for how we connect with our life, we become part of that cycle of harsh judgement and rejection, because we’re denying the choices that we made by abdicating responsibility for the state in which we find ourselves.

It always starts with you.

Own Your Life.

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