What are you taking from life?

Our efforts towards others is what we give.

How they receive and reciprocate those efforts is what we get.

But what we take from that exchange is often lost to the emotional experience that lasts long after the moment has passed.

What we take is OUR interpretation of what was behind the way that someone responded to our efforts towards them.

It’s the assumptions that we make, and the signs we look for to confirm our assumptions to be true, that define what we take from others.

Those assumptions are most often due to what we believe to be our value to them. It’s our assumption of how much they value us.

It doesn’t mean that what we assume to be true is a reflection of how they truly value us.

That’s when we become distracted by how our efforts are validated, rather than focusing on what value we want to create in that moment with them.

The healthier our self-esteem, the kinder we’ll be towards them and ourselves with the assumptions that we make.

Otherwise, if we don’t our own value, we’ll assume that their less-than-enthusiastic reaction towards us is because of who we are, and not because of what they may be grappling with in their own self-worth.

When two unhealthy self-esteems collide, innocent beings are hurt, and a lifetime of pain is nurtured.

Break the cycle by owning your self-worth, so that you don’t hold others accountable for how you feel about yourself.

It always starts with you.

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