I’m hoping that you had someone to call in yesterday’s challenge. If not, you should have paid someone to call you. That way, you would still have been responsible for calling someone you love. I mean, if you can’t love yourself, then is it fair to expect anyone else to love you?
Self-love is not as indulgent as it sounds. The same way we wish others would love us unconditionally, we need to view ourselves by the same standard. So focusing on your flaws but not appreciating your beauty is like spurning the love of your life because they did everything perfectly for you except make a decent cup of tea. Yeah, the logic of it is that ludicrous. So be kind to yourself by loving others in the same way as you love yourself. And vice versa.
Day 5: De-clutter your room or desk
Cynics often suggest that a clean desk is the sign of a sick mind. That’s only because they haven’t looked inside the desk drawers. Having been raised in a tiny three-bedroom home sharing a single bathroom with five other siblings, and a small bedroom with two other brothers, I know first hand how difficult it is to live with clutter. I was regularly reminded that all my possessions until well into my twenties could fit into two standard garbage bags, and I accepted that tease as a compliment!
Some think that it is a waste of time to focus on keeping things in order, or getting rid of things that we don’t need, so I thought I’d offer a few points of why it is that I regularly find reason to de-clutter my life, not just my desk or my room.
7 Simple Reasons to De-Clutter Your Life
- Clutter demands attention, even if you are ignoring it. Subconsciously, you know it is there, so it takes up head space without you realising it.
- I can’t count how many times I put off some project I wanted to do because I just didn’t feel like looking for all the pieces or tools that I needed to do the project
- I also can’t count how often I ended up getting five things done in the time it would normally take me to do two things, simply because everything I needed to skip from one task to the next was within reach
- Clutter serves as a distraction because the more information that you have in view, the more you have to process. So chances are, people that have a lot of clutter around them procrastinate often because when intending to start one thing, they are easily distracted by something else that they come across
- My favourite reason for de-cluttering though, has nothing to do with any of the above. Instead, it has to do with wanting to add value as much as possible. When I have something useful sitting on my desk, in my room, or in storage for just-in-case, I remind myself that there is someone else that could use exactly that thing to do something essential. My just-in-case is a luxury for me, while it could be a basic necessity for someone else. I would rather die knowing that someone benefited from my excess, rather than regretting that I didn’t live long enough to see it come back into fashion.
- And better than all that, de-cluttering creates space for new toys and clothes. So if you make it a habit of getting rid of something when you get something new, you’ll find that your life will have less clutter without much effort at all.
- Oh, and how could I forget the main reason to de-clutter. When you hold on to trinkets, especially when those trinkets are reminders of times and relationships that you would rather forget, each time you come across that trinket, it serves as a reminder of what was, and gives you reason to doubt what good can be. In other words, it is an indulgence in the past, even though it holds no benefit or value in the present, or for the future,except to torment you about what failed expectations you may have experienced before. Only hold on to trinkets if they affirm your humanness, not if you use it to remind yourself about what you lost, or why you were not good enough. You deserve better than that.
Clear the noise
We go in search of peace because we want to get away from the noise. There is always a balance to be struck, so living in austere conditions is not for everyone either. But take a look around and see how much you meant to get back to, or use again, or wear to some occasion, and honestly ask yourself if you are likely to do that anytime soon? All that contributes to the noise that we try to escape when we go in search of peace.
If needed, there are many places that buy used clothes and goods, so you could make some money and maybe have a small holiday instead.
If money is not tight, there are many charity stores that take used goods and sell it to raise funds to run orphanages and shelters. Either way, you win. You contribute generously towards the upliftment of society, while also improving the quality of your life by giving yourself a chance to breathe without being interrupted with the sight of something that needs your attention.
De-cluttering holds more value for you than it does for any recipient of the stuff that you get rid of. As much as you may think you are getting rid of some possession, you are in fact creating space for something even better. I suspect this somehow applies to people and things alike!